This is such a powerful quote for me.
“You don’t have to be great to start, but you have to start to be great” - Zig Ziglar
Often as human beings we have our own narratives and beliefs about ourselves, which actually, is only a story that we have told ourselves. But is it true? No.
Being a friend, a sister, a lover, a daughter and just a fellow human being I have listened to people’s narratives about themselves. Does this sound familiar to you?
The list goes on.
For me personally, growing up as a junior professional tennis player, I didn’t focus that much on school. As an adult this has translated into me feeling “I’m not smart enough, therefore I’m not good enough”.
Whatever the inadequacy we feel, as human beings we try to compensate. My compensation for this was OVER studying and reading to gain as much knowledge as possible.
Funny when I look back to uni all my mates saying.. “wow you study so much look at all your extra notes!”
I still struggle with this, however I realise that, the narrative of myself isn’t true. If put my mind to something, I am really capable of anything.
Don’t believe the little lies your ego tells you.
You ARE good enough, and there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
If you want to start something and you are letting your narrative hold you back...
Just remember it’s not even true, it’s a made up story. You ARE amazing, go and take the first step.
1 month ago
The path to empowering ourselves is not linear. One unfolding leads to many others. When you've been on the path for awhile the road to liberating ourselves becomes clearer and also more nuanced.
Awareness of conditioning: these are the stories that are running in our subconscious. We become aware when we engage our shadow and our ego.
Speaking the whole truth: partial truths keep us trapped. Convenient truths too. When we speak the whole truth (compassionately) we empower ourselves and the person we are in relationship to because we can make clearer decisions.
Creating new rituals: Replacing harmful or hurtful habits with new rituals that honor our highest self is a daily practice. The more we clean up the higher we ascend.
Honoring yourself: This is a process of cleaning up relationships to people, jobs, tv shows, books, food, etc. (For more info see last week's post on Body, Mind and Spirit).
Helping Others: We empower ourselves by walking away from old patterns but also by helping others find freedom too. When we are of service because of something our heart radiates we are both empowered and free.
Love as a primary motivation: It's easy to love some, hard to love all. When we can see that people are operating out of hurt that isn't personal to us but may be directed at us, we make different choices. We can choose to love instead of react. .
Where are you on this path?
Need clarity? Ask 👇👇👇
Strive for progress not perfection. #youaregoodenough https://www.instagram.com/p/B7Dy5hcHQRs/?igshid=1fwvit0ma2w2r …
4 hours ago
Each Day a New Beginning
We are born in innocence. Corruption comes later. The first fear is a corruption, the first reaching for something that defies us. The first nuance of difference, the first need to feel better than the different one, more loved, stronger, richer, more blessed–these are corruptions.
–Laura Z. Hobson
We are corrupted. To be a human is to be corrupted. Our corruptions interfere with our happiness at the very time we are seeking happiness. When we think if only we were prettier, smarter, had a better job, then we’d be happy, we are giving in to corruptions. And these corruptions stifle our growth. We are each who we need to be. We have a supporting role in one another’s lives. We can teach and learn from one another.
Recovery is choosing to help ourselves and one another to be as we are; to quit making comparisons; to understand our equality as women; to celebrate our differences, knowing they give intensity to life’s colors for us all.
I can celebrate our special and different gifts today. My heart will be lightened. 🌈☮️❤️ I am grateful today to know who and what I am. To embrace where I came from, and to understand my flaws. I’m grateful for my heart and compassion. And for my mind and body. I’m grateful for the grace of God. And I’m grateful for friends who encourage and support me, and who tell me the truth.
Wishing you a peaceful, safe day filled with love and light. 🙏🏻☀️☮️
✨Hoe gaat het met jou in januari?✨ Al bijna een week zijn we op pad met ons campertje. Na maanden van voorbereiding, voorbereiding en nog meer voorbereiding zijn we ondertussen al in zuid Frankrijk.
Nu terug kijkend is dit hele avontuur me niet in de koude kleren gaan zitten. Ik wil het zo graag goed doen voor iedereen in Nederland. Voor alle mensen die extra tijd vrijmaken om voor me in te vallen, en alles zo goed voor me opvangen. Voor alle yogi's die opeens moeten wennen aan andere leraren. Niemand teleurstellen en alles zo goed mogelijk regelen. Alle 100.000 puntjes op de I zetten.
Dus voor nu is dit even mijn mantra.
Ik doe mijn best en dat is ook OK.
Vanuit het boeddhisme wordt dit ook mooi beschreven. Wat je nu doet met de kennis die je nu hebt is al waar meesterschap... Dat wil niet zeggen dat je het over een paar jaar niet heel anders zult doen, maar deze kennis heb je nu nog niet. Dit is met je beste intenties en alle liefde en aandacht die je erin stopt het beste wat je kunt doen.
Dus voor nu is het goed genoeg.
Je bent goed genoeg 💛🚐
Why is that we only ever seem to use the word 'thrive' when talking about children, rarely adults?
Have you ever stopped to think about whether or not you're thriving?
Is it time to pay some attention to this question, to assess how you are really doing?
If this something you need help with, may be a different perspective, just get in touch.
#thrive#bethebestversionofyou#changeispossible #timetoassess#therapy#counselling#wellbeing#mentalhealth#personalgrowth#time2talk #selfcare#selfworth#timeformyself#timeforme#oktonotbeok#motivation#therapiststhoughts#selfcareisn'tselfish#findwhatworksforyou#lifegoals#beyourself#youaregoodenough#counsellingessex#counsellorwickford#privatepractice#Essex
A good book written by a friend who left the corporate world rat race to do what he likes and just enough #youaregoodenough https://twitter.com/Epic_Women/status/1214989966167728128 …pic.twitter.com/XcPn16321C
18 hours ago
@ every person going through a break up (on any level) : try not to doubt your decision to leave, focus on unpacking why you continue to want to stay. just make sure you’re TOO FAR to Uber back.
+ if absence makes the heart grow fonder, then i would argue that distance weakens the heart’s beat.
Cliff Notes: Love CLOSE BY, Heal FAR AWAY.
For more emo messages wrapped in poetic metaphors ➡️ @positivityANDpills
Allways belive in your own Power (Girl /Women )You can DO IT 💪🦸♀️🔥👊 You are Good enough❤Allways try to remember that 😘 FIND DIN INDRE PIPPI👉💪🦸♀️🔥👊 #girlpower#power#styrke#believe#letgo #believeinyourself#strength#standupanfight #youcandoit#begoodtoyourself#loveyourself #doityourself#women#lady#dame#kvinde#pippipower #youcanmakeadifference#youaregoodenough #powerwomen#me#hope#tropådinstyrke #💪🏻 #🦸♀️#👊🏻
(swipe for) AFFIRMATIONS & (keep reading for) HOW DO THEY WORK?!🤪🙌🏽
The myth: repeat these affirmations every morning and they will transform your reality.
The truth: repeat these affirmations daily, whenever you feel like it is necessary to change your state, have faith in it!! And while repeating them, feel it with your whole being! How does it/will make you feel? How does it look? Quick visualization part works the good trick with lifting up your feelings 😍 (even if you just quickly visualize yourself walking up straight, head up, smile on your face, crown on your head 😍🤪😁🙌🏽)
Constant Repetition + Faith + Associations with feelings + Visualization = will attract it into your life ♥️🙏🏽
It is not enough to simply repeat your affirmations couple of times & expect everything to change.
Like every other habit in life, it takes time to be installed.
Like every other habit, it takes time to integrate.
Like every other habit, it takes time for it to make a difference in your life.
But it will make a difference.
If you repeat your affirmations constantly, with faith that it works! With positive feelings associated to your affirmations + some quick visualization = girl!!!
The power is in your hands and you will work a a miracle into attracting these FEELINGS which you intend/affirm to feel! ♥️
I listed couple of affirmations that you can work on this weekend, this month, this year! Lifetime! Whatever you choose 🙌🏽🤪
Let me know which one you love the most??! 🌟🌟🌟
17 hours ago
💙 ..love yourself. Love yourself so much, it's undeniable.
💙 ..YOU are good enough for you!
💙 ..BE FREE !
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I get this way sometimes. I feel like this right now. Been crying all morning. I think I hide so much all the time that sometimes I just break down. One thing will bother me sooooo much, hurt my feelings soooo bad, that I just can't handle it anymore. Have to let it out. Try to find something to bring me out of it.
Happy Friday friends! Months ago I did a Podcast called "New Perspectives- Love Relationships" and today I am bringing it back! I want to re-visit the hard questions with you all-many of you may be feeling like there's been a lot lost in your relationship, and that it's too late or 'not worth it' to have things change-but this is most certainly false.
What I talk about in this Episode:
1. Letting go of the idea of what relationships are "Supposed to be"
2. Why did you get into a relationship?
3. Breaking down the NEW love relationship
4. What are Love relationships?
5. Client Example-Couples Therapy Guilt
6. We are a society who doesn't want to FEEL
7. What's your priority in your relationship? WHO is priority in your relationship?
8. Relationship on a SOUL level
9. The importance of our partner being the Go-To person
10. Finding your voice in the relationship!
11. There's no such thing as a relationship being "too damaged"
12. I want to hear from you!
I hope this episode provides you with some help and insight for yourself and your relationship. Take a listen and comment or let me know your thoughts! Thank you everyone!💜 Podcast on Soundcloud: https://soundcloud.com/kimberley_bell/new-podcast-perspective-in-love-relationships
Find the Podcast soon on Apple: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/you-are-good-enough/id1439618737
2 days ago
Because you are good enough.💋
As a singleton, it can be difficult to stand firmly against the societal pressures about marriage. "What do you mean by you are happy being single? All your friends are married!"
"Your biological clock is ticking!"
"Always a bridesmaid, never a bride..."
"You're getting left on the shelf..."
"Your younger siblings are all married, what's wrong with you?" All of these thoughts can intensify, especially at the weekend, when partners tend to pair off and do something together.
Remember, you've got the upper hand in choosing a life partner whilst you're still single.
So choose wisely.
It is better to be single and satisfied, than to be married and miserable.
Before you give someone else a place in your life, be sure to know, value and develop yourself first. When you know and love yourself, you can then teach someone else how to know and love you. A good way to do this would be to invest in attending the @lovetherapyuk seminars every Thursday at 8pm in Finsbury Park. Join others in learning to love intelligently. .
#TGIF #ThinkingOutLoud #SingleLife
#LoveYourself #KnowYourself #ValueYourself
I use to workout for 2 hours a day.
I used to wake up at 3am and tiptoe around upstairs while my mom and brother were still sleeping so I could get ready for my workout starting at 3:30. I “needed” to fit it in before school.
I would play 2 videos approximately 50 minutes each and still never be satisfied, I felt like I needed more. (y’all I did at home workouts in high school too but for the wrong reasons…more on that later).
I would be sweating and red faced, soaking through my ratty middle school drama long sleeve t-shirt and my Walmart sports bra and still want to see more sweat. I’d be dizzy because my body was so exhausted.
I was stuck in a cycle of working off what I ate the night before and punishing myself the next morning.
I used to think I needed to workout for 2 hours a day. And then I found these 30 minute programs that changed my life.
Now? I don’t feel the need to play 2 or 3 or 4 of them to get a good sweat. And I’m not doing it for the sweat anymore, I’m doing it to set my mind right.
And that is what I wish for every single girl out there that feels like she needs to kill herself in the gym or pump that iron for half the day-that you can get results and you can sweat in 30 minutes. Period.
If you baked a frozen pizza until it was perfect and then felt the need to cook it longer because you wanted to make it “even better”, it would be burnt to shit wouldn’t it?! Same goes for workouts, if you see results in 30 minutes, why kill yourself for an hour and 30 more?
We’re ditching the mentality that more is better…somethings, including coffee and laughter…definitely. But workouts? Aint nobody got time for that.
So, lets take that extra time we would spend working out…and care for ourselves! Who’s doing some of that this weekend?!
Our connections to our friends and family strengthen our mental body by helping us feel supported during times of need or stress.
Today's daily challenge is all about being there for a friend - or enrolling a friend to be there for you. Don't underestimate the power and benefit to you both if you chose to be there for a friend.
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To the girl who wakes up dreading the routine day ahead of her, I’ve been you.😩 To the girl who doesn’t feel good enough, I’ve been you. To the girl who feels like she’s lost her sense of purpose, I’ve been you. To the girl who is struggling and needs a way out, I’ve been you. To the girl who just wants more, I’ve been you.🙌🏻
I have seriously been you, but 1 year ago I put my foot down and decided to change it all.💯 I was you, but I’m not anymore. Now, I’m the girl who decided to just go for it.🦄 I was so tired of waiting to get approval from others to be me... I stopped waiting and told myself “If God thinks I’m enough... then I am enough!”🙏🏻
Well your life change in one day? No, but one day can change your life. That’s the power of one decision. Yes, I know it’s scary, so scary.😳 Wanna know what else is scary? Looking back in 10-20 years with regret for not doing the things you dreamed of because you felt scared of failure, change and people’s opinions.
Listen boo, when you surround yourself with people who cheer you on and lift you up... your life gets soooo much better. Your circle should want to see you win and clap loudly when you do. If not, get a new circle.💋
Resolutely, fully, authentically, real, raw, truthfully you. As you are. The world, humanity needs you to be yourself. No matter what that looks like. Sometimes it is a glorious display of the most radiant magnificence. Sometimes it will be messy, and dirty and down and angry. Doesn't matter. When you are fully yourself, you give those around you the opportunity to witness and support you exactly as you need. When you are fully yourself, those around you can give themselves permission to show their authentic selves as well.
Not everyone is going to like you. This is true whether you are being real or not. Might as well stop wasting energy on keeping the mask up and just drop into the truth of who you are. The right people will be drawn to you through sacred resonance and attraction. And those relationships will be true, juicy, lively and healing.
It is safe to be yourself. It is vital that you be yourself. The Universe needs you to be exactly true to who you really are.
Go on. It only takes a small bit of being brave before it becomes beautiful, graceful, natural... Divine.
The good news is that whatever we have to deal with, we are lucky enough to have each other as support and ultimately when it’s tough we have a shoulder to cry on and when it’s great we have someone to share it with and this week has certainly been full of all of these emotions.
The week started with Lew having a bit of a parenting meltdown, feeling like he wasn’t good enough and felt like he was failing. Obviously this is not true at all, as I am sure you will all agree with me that he is an amazing parent to our kids. I always tell him but sometimes you need to do more than just say something, this week I was there for him and we worked it through together.
It’s times like this that we have to remember just how lucky we are to have eachother, as not everyone out there is as lucky, some people are doing it all alone with nobody to turn to when the kids are in bed.
So this evenings post is dedicated to all of you super parents and carers out there. Whether you are single parents, parents living with a partner who is often out working to make ends meet or just simply having a tough time with parenting or caring for a family member at the moment.
When you do get that 5 minute breather at some point tonight, sit down and remind yourself that #youaregoodenough and be proud of all you achieve every single day.
Much love Rich & Lew ❤️