As people pleasers, we tend to spend a lot of our time trying to be appreciated and liked by everyone around us. This usually stems from low self-worth, so we try to seek acceptance and approval from others to feel more worthy. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It is important to realize that doing too much for others usually ends up hurting rather than helping our relationships. When we do too much for others, we over-exert ourselves and deplete our inner happiness. This can inevitably lead to resentment toward the other person and overall anxiety. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The first step in unlearning this people-pleasing behavior is recognizing *why* we are doing it. I encourage you to take some time to answer the questions posted in tip # 1. It might be helpful to use my last post to identify the reasons behind your people-pleasing behavior. Becoming consciously aware of our intentions allows us to work on our maladaptive behaviors. To overcome people-pleasing, be kind, but maintain healthy boundaries and be assertive when needed.