It can be so easy to focus on what we see didn’t get done after a long day of momming: the dishes, the laundry, the meal planning...basic personal hygiene (shower? Me??). The list can seem to be endless. And often brings such feelings of failure.
But what if instead we made an effort to focus on what we DID do, but can’t be seen and is rarely noticed?
💕The read books
💕The warm hugs
💕When we stop to answer a question and teach 💕Time at the park
💕The endless games of hide and seek
💕Meals made, laughs shared, and encouragement given.
That list is also endless, and always longer than what we didn’t do. That list is how we make them FEEL. It’s our love. It’s what we will both remember as time passes. It’s exactly why you ARE a good mom. .
My friend @katie.plus.coffee and I want to spread this message to women out there who might need to hear this (...who just so happens to be everyone, because who doesn’t want to hear they’re a great mom?) It’s our job to recognize it in ourselves, but also as women and mothers we truly are the best in recognizing it in others. In seeing the little things other women are doing, and pointing out what a big impact those things make. Share this with someone who you’ve seen doing a great job and let them know they are crushing it. Or share your own story and how great you’re doing and tag us! Be proud of how hard you work. Use social media to spread love and not comparison between moms #TheGoodMomMovement .
In that spirit I want to tag some accounts that I think do a great job promoting this message in what they do and how they post and encourage them to do the same: @psychedmommy, @mombrain.therapist @krista.horton @thesisterstudioig @malloryervin
Let’s spread some support and encouragement today, and always ALWAYS remember: you’re a good mom 💕
To my new followers: you may not know that we were a one income family for over a decade. We relied solely on my husband’s income from 2007 when I had my first daughter until 2018 when our youngest was school-age and I started my first full time teaching job. Actually, it wasn’t until September of last year that I earned my first full time paycheck, only 4 months before we became #debtfree. I chose to be a #stayathomemom because that’s what was best for our family, and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve ever made.
I am sharing this because I don’t want anyone to miss that part of our story. When I say that we paid off over $77k of debt on “mostly one income” I mean that out of the 3 years that it took us to pay off debt, for 2 years and 8 months we only had one full time income! It was a median income...we started our #debtfree journey making just over $78k GROSS a year as a #familyof6. I know there are families who make less, please don’t compare your income to ours (this is why I avoid sharing income totals...I hate the comparisons) but y’all facing a non-mortgage debt that was nearly equal to a full year of our income with 4 kids who depend on us for everything...it was terrifying. And in that mess we chose to STAY a one income family because I valued having that time with my young children. And that meant tremendous sacrifice and behavior change. If you want to have your cake and eat it too, you better be prepared to roll up your sleeves and get busy baking in the kitchen! (I hate baking btw...that’s definitely just a metaphor 😉) Having the flexibility of time in order to be present with my children WHILE tackling our debt meant I had to still work. Maybe I didn’t earn a paycheck, but my efforts to save money and manage the budget well contributed tremendously to our debt payoff...it’s how DebtKickinMom was born. I became #frugalaf & figured out ways to hustle and earn side income. I was a warrior! All moms who fight for their families, working in or outside the home, are warriors.
This past year has looked immensely different for our family. We make nearly double and we have no consumer debt. But let’s not forget the decade it took to get here ♥️
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crying at how sweet my baby is. when did she get so big?! 😩
use code SORALOVE for some $$ off of this sweet romper!
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My kids eat organic, non GMO, free range, farm to table gummy bears because I care about the quality of junk food my children eat.
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Let’s just say this turned out as I anticipated 😂🥴 I may have rainbow rice stuck in places that haven’t seen the light of day in 20+ weeks, but she enjoyed herself and was entertained for 20 minutes (in our world that’s an eternity 🙌🏻). If we ever decide to be brave enough to do this inside we will have to attempt some boundaries, but for today I just wanted to let her play and do whatever kept her busy and entertained her.
So while I’m blowing “unicorn farts” for an unforeseen amount of time...anyone else have a funny story or learning curve with sensory play? We’ve managed to tape ourselves together and drip rainbows In just 24 hours...who else?? #whateverworks 🌈 🦄 💨
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Mama + Mama’s My Girl 💗 And hello new followers wow!! We have been packaging non stop so thank you all for your patience! We can’t thank you enough for the love you’ve shown our little shop! 😘😘😭
Postpartum was a hard one for me. For a long time I felt incredibly alone and I really struggled. I still have those moments and being pregnant again I am terrified to feel the lows that I felt again after my baby is here. I totally had no clue who I was anymore and I had a hard time finding even a glimpse of myself again. I look back at old pictures and you can just see how much I was struggling and the sadness I felt. It’s hard to see. I was incredibly lost. For me finding some sort of routine really helped. I have slowly been finding myself again and I only hope I continue to do so after my little one is here. My babies are my world and I think many mommas feel that way but it also doesn’t mean that you can’t be having a hard time mentally. My little boy was completely planned I was so happy and excited! I have an incredible supportive husband and I never forgot that. Ever. It’s not something you can control, unfortunately. My baby blues turned into PPD and I didn’t start feeling somewhat myself again until the beginning of this year. Postpartum has definitely changed me but It has only made me stronger, smarter, more brave... postpartum is different for everyone and you always have different experiences. I hope that my journey after my little girl is born is much different. I cannot wait for her to be here and to be holding her in my arms. ❤️
Mr. Eyebrows giving some serious tude. He was doing this to random people in the store yesterday. One lady got a pretty good laugh at him. This boy is just like his daddy - you can read his thoughts all over his face. I sure love this boy and all his little quirks.
WHY is networking so important?
Wouldn't it be easier if you could just stay on your couch in your yoga pants, post an inspiring quote on Instagram, & watch the clients pour in?
Well...yea...obviously. Kylie Jenner might have this down but the rest of us need to hustle!
Of all the lessons the corporate world can teach, learning to network CONSCIOUSLY is #1 in my book.When you network consciously & effectively, you will:
💥Identify role models
💥Find mentors to guide you
💥Expand your business opportunities
Most important...as you start rising with effective networking, you can turn around & lift that next mama up with you. We're taking over! 🔥