Consciousness is the path to healing. Most people call this “awakening” because that’s what it is: awakening to your own unconscious behavior.
There is a lot of confusion about what it is to live a conscious life. Being conscious isn’t choosing to not eat meat, to not use plastic, or to be a minimalist who does not consume.
Being conscious isn’t about knowing every government conspiracy theory, or boycotting corporations, or railing against big pharma. It is not a one time choice and then poof!: we are ‘woke.’ Consciousness might bring you to these choices, but if the focus is external, this is just ego. Consciousness is inner work.
To become conscious is to begin to practice observing your thoughts. There’s a train of thoughts going through your mind at all times (even as you read this post.) It might be telling you a story as you read this. Consciousness is to become aware of that story.
Consciousness is to see you are not your thoughts, you’re the awareness who can observe those thoughts.
As you practice, your awareness will get wider and wider. You’ll start to see how you speak. You’ll start to observe how you spend your time. You’ll start to see just how much you resist reality by trying to control it. You’ll see how you’re constantly projecting, assuming, and denying.
This is what we do when we are not aware: we project our past into the present moment. And in doing so we create our own suffering over and over again.
To live a conscious life is work. It’s something to commit to and practice daily.
When we become conscious, we are unlearning. We are shedding the conditioning, the labels, and the stories that kept us safe so that we can become the powerful, limitless creator of our own lives.
Are you becoming more conscious? #selfhealers
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Relationships are spaces for mutual evolution and growth.
If we view our partner as mirrors, we can heal together. When we are triggered we can ask “why?” When we are feeling insecure we can ask “why?” When we are creating stories around their actions, we can ask ourselves “is this true?” So much awareness can come between people willing to become conscious.
If we view our partners as people to rescue, fix, or save us, we create resentment.
We place pressure on someone to give us something we can only give ourselves.
Our work is to heal from our past so we don’t seek partners to re-create those dynamics.
I’m curious, what is the biggest thing you’ve learned about yourself within your relationships? #selfhealers
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No matter what your age, this part hurts.
You’re doing the work. You’re placing boundaries. You’re working to reparent yourself.
You feel good about your evolution.
But then your mother makes that comment. Your father projects his insecurity. Maybe your siblings chime in and it’s a family affair.
Most adults are highly emotionally immature, so your evolution will feel like a threat. They fear losing or changing connection, and don’t know how to communicate that. So they react in ego tantrums without awareness.
I get so many questions about reparenting. About how it hurts their parents feelings, or their mom is offended by it. So many people asking me how they can “get” their parents to get it.
And I’m here with love telling you this reality: you can’t.
People see what they want to see. They hear what they want to hear.
This hurts our inner child because we are desperate to be seen by our parents.
Few of us understand that in many ways, they themselves are wounded children.
This is why they might say:
“Oh you’re too good for us now?”
“Look at you, holier then thou”
“Boundaries are new age garbage”
“I liked you before you found out about all this”
“Guess I was just a terrible parent”
See the child-like part of your parents. Know people who respond in this way have healing to do. Know that their lack of support comes from their own wounding and it’s nothing personal. This is the work.
You are breaking cycles. You WILL be misunderstood.
Do the work anyway. There’s wisdom in this lack of understanding.
Confidence is waiting to meet you #selfhealers
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We talk a lot about red flags in relationships. The problem is these red flags typically existed in our earliest relationships. That’s why we don’t see them as red flags.
Many of us grew up in dynamics where there were no boundaries, where people betrayed themselves, and where codependency was the norm. Few of us have had healthy emotional examples of what relationships look like.
This conditioning will us confuse red flags as acts of love.
It’s nothing to be ashamed of: it’s something to simply be aware of.
Our work is to unlearn these dysfunctional relationship dynamics. This will be difficult because the pull to the familiar is very real. Our mind will always seek to repeat the past. That’s where it feels safe, even if safety is pain •Impulsiveness might feel like adventure •Directing your relationships might feel like care •Professing undying devotion might feel temporary soothe the wound of not being seen• Crossing physical boundaries might feel like excitement • Having another relationship to ‘compete’ with might feel like an opportunity to prove your worth•Labeling ex’s as crazy might make us feel like the chosen one •moving too quickly might feel like acceptance
There is nothing wrong with having these feelings. They’re normal. They’re showing us what needs to heal.
Authentic love is slow and steady. It’s stable. It’s predicable. It doesn’t seek to fix or rescue. It doesn’t come into your life and rearrange everything you know. It values boundaries, integrity, and accountability. Most of all, it’s safe.
The path of unlearning trauma bonding it’s one of life’s greatest gifts #selfhealers
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Trauma bonds are so common they seem normal.
And, they are normal.
We have been sold a narrative of what love is. We have watched adults in these bonds from our earliest years. Our entertainment is based around them (👋🏻 bachelor!) The partners we choose is simply a manifestation of our conditioning. I found myself in them because it was the familiar.
A few days ago, I was tagged in a @humansofny . The young girl writing talked about the shame she had for finding men who came on strong and then abandoned her. Someone tagged me in the post. They told her she was normal and found herself in a cycle. This warmed my heart because the shame is so real + heavy.
We don’t talk about trauma bonds. We don’t explain that these relationships are re-enactments of the past. We don’t allow people to understand why they’re drawn to them so they can unlearn the conditioning and find authentic love.
Authentic love is safe. It’s secure. The level of safety another person offers us is directly correlated to the level of connection a person has to themselves.
Authentic love is people willing to be exposed. Two people who work to heal from the past rather than re-create it. Authentic love is partners who are willing to learn go beyond the ego that demands, controls, and defends. It’s allowing someone to see you. And to allow it, you must wake up to see yourself. That’s the terrifying part. Releasing the story of who you are to show someone who you truly are.
Im going to create some more videos on trauma bonds for the YouTube channel. Let me know your questions below so I can make them the most helpful #selfhealers
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One of the biggest takeaways I’ve had on my mindset-rewiring journey has been the ability to understand the benefit of increasing one’s discomfort level within positive parameters.
Almost everything that is new to our brain creates discomfort but why? With the feelings of resistance, the brain is signaling that we should NOT risk expending precious energy on an uncertain outcome.
The brain interprets these hazards as indicators that should things go any further, it may not be able to ensure our safety. This is why whenever we leave the familiar, the brain hits the distress button even if the change is only a challenge, not a threat.
We have been taught to implement willpower to push beyond this discomfort, and it does work in the short-term but in trying to maintain self-discipline, we often find it unsustainable and quickly lose focus on our desired result.
The solution is to enlist our subconscious mind to work in our favor, with one option being to train our tolerance muscle by slowly increasing challenges that benefit us in the long run.
Progression is important because the discomfort mechanism is unconscious and when we manage to get past its surveillance and recondition it, we overcome hurdles with less effort and can use our energy more efficiently.
Each time we slack off on an intention we have set for ourselves, even a small one, our discomfort-tolerance muscle becomes weaker. So let’s turn this around!
The recipe is simple: learn to keep promises to yourself on a daily basis and always follow through. Begin with something small and work your way up to more important things. Don’t overwhelm your fight-or-flight reflex.
Here are some examples:
Speak-up in one situation where you usually wouldn’t, every day. Choose an initiative and follow through; i.e., set a clarifying meeting with your boss or a tense family member. Take time to sit alone in silence and when your body says ‘get up,’ stay a bit longer. Go for a walk every day even if the weather isn’t ideal. And whatever you do, don’t listen to your internal comfort-zone voice.
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Soltar es sabiduría
Soltar es gratitud
Soltar es empoderamiento
Soltar es aprendizaje
Soltar es amor incondicional
Cuando aprendes a soltar eres libre, vuelves a reconocer tu esencia, te das permiso de crear desde la sabiduría de tu corazón. Te quitas cargas que ya no aportan a tu vida tomando el control en tus decisiones. Cuando sueltas con amor y no porque "te toca", avanzas y por fin entiendes el aprendizaje que te haya traído esa situación dolorosa. Cuando sueltas, sanas y te permites permanecer en el vacío abriendo espacio a todo lo nuevo que deseas manifestar. Mira dentro de tu corazón qué es eso que te hace daño y te cuesta soltar? Abrazos de luz de corazón a corazón🤗💚🤗💚
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A few weeks ago, I actually got this tattooed on my body. It’s from a song from my favourite musical. Who can name it? 👇🏼 It’s my ultimate life motto. The only way I care to measure my life. If I have love (for self, for others, from others, for the Earth, etc.), than I truly have all that I need.
In some sneaky moments though, my inner Oakville (as my partner so lovingly calls it) (ego) comes out and tells me things that I “should” want, things that I “should” have, or things that “should” feel important to me. Things that truly have nothing to do with my values, the kind of life I want to live or the kind of person I am. How wild and sneaky is that?
Fortunately, I have a pretty strong self-awareness and blooming meditation practice, which allows me to consciously observe my unconscious thoughts and behaviour patterns, and make intentional choices that align with my values. Most. Of. The. Time.
Sometimes though, that sneaky ego is loud—louder than my self-awareness. It tells me things like, “You should own a house by now. You should be farther along in your business. You should spend more time worrying about your physical appearance. You need those expensive boots,” etc. In those times, I’m grateful (although not always in the moment), to have a partner, who will call me out on it in the times it’s really sneaky. She’ll tell me “You’re beautiful just the way you are,” when I say “I just need to fix my face,” before I leave the house. Other times, her grounded, yet blunt, inner Woodstock farm girl self will straight up tell me “You’re being so Oakville right now.” My intention is to consistently come back to this affirmation. Measure in love. While it feels good and makes perfect sense, it is still a practice. My life is abundant with love, so it’s safe to say, I’m on course. 👍🏼 How do you want to measure your life?