Let’s talk about sleep.
The other day in my stories I mentioned I ideally need 10 hours sleep to be good.
Last weekend, I slept 12 hours with a 3 hour nap.
And the longest I have ever slept is 23 hours (and yes my mum had to check I wasn’t dead).
I’m GREAT at sleeping, yet my whole life people have tried to diagnose me or tell me it’s unhealthy for sleeping so much.
I ran every test in the book. I believed them. I’ve tried fighting it. I would force myself up in school but in most cases, I would just get a headache. And I wish back then I knew that all I needed was a few more hours sleep.
But back then I resented the fact that I’ve needed 10 when some people can exist on 5 and always thought I was lazy for needing more rest.
But it’s not lazy.
We all need different amounts of sleep.
As soon as I accepted that, I realised I could never work 9-5 job.
And as soon as I started listening to my body, not only did my pain disappear but my productivity went through the roof.
If I slept a few more hours, I was way more efficient.
Realistically, my extra need for sleep is probably due to the fact my brain works overtime to get rid of extra CSF fluid so if the worst consequence is I need a few more hours sleep, so be it.
Coat: @asos (gifted)
1 Woche vor
Your worth has nothing to do with your weight. Your bathroom scale only gives you one number and it’s not the measure of your worth, how lovable you are, or how worthy you are of love and happiness. 💪 💃 😊 ❤️
5 Stundes vor
We are not born disliking hating our bodies, feeling they are not good enough - of that s*it is learned.
Thanks to diet culture, patriarchy, and white supremacy, ideas of what constitutes a “good” body, an attractive body, or a healthy body are confined to very narrow constructs that are laden with falsehoods. And as we ingest and invest in these ideas, they become perpetuated and result in discrimination and bias. We end up innocently attaching to these beliefs and they become a part of our identity - leaving us to forever managing our bodies so we don’t lose status for feelings of worthiness.
We can live our whole lives fighting with our bodies and ourselves because of these beliefs , but we don’t have to any longer - we can take the first steps to end it.
That’s what my 8-week one-on-one coaching program is for: individualized and tailored support to help you disassociate from the toxic messaging of our culture, and reclaim your body for yourself. If you want to find out more, click the link in my bio then “Body Acceptance Coaching” for more information.
📙 And for additional information and resources on a weight-inclusive approach to health and wellness, download my free Body Acceptance Jump Start Guide by clicking the link in my bio. [Quote from coaching client testimonial].
I love this! 😍❤️💪🏼
Can you imagine how different our world would be if we were all taught this powerful message at a young age?
This is actually one of the main strengths I wish I learned as a child: knowing I was still lovable and good even if other kids didn’t like me or spoke negatively about me.
But you know what’s so wonderful about growing up?
We now get to parent and take care of ourselves in the exact ways we needed as children. Learning about our needs and fears can be such a beautiful thing once we slow down and actually listen to what our hearts and minds are saying 🥰
Happy Friday everyone!
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3 Tags vor
Quit it, Karen 🤷🏼♀️ #thewellful
Talking sh*t about your body DOESN’T:
- change anything about your body
- make you feel better
- make the world a better place
- help you feel more confident
- encourage you to engage in more health behaviors (shame and guilt are not health promoting)
Talking sh*t about your body DOES:
- make you feel awful
- make others around you feel more critical about their bodies
- make you feel bullied (because you are bullying yourself)
- make you compare yourself to others even though we would never ever all look the same even if we all ate and exercised exactly the same
- set an example to anyone who you are a role model for that picking apart their body and bodies in general is okay and normal
- enforce the narrative that your value as a human = your attractiveness and weight
- prevent you from focusing on other things that bring value & joy to your and others lives
- help support the diet industry bc they tell you they have *alllll* the answers to self-esteem, confidence and happiness when really that’s already WITHIN YOU BABE 🔥 diet culture doesn’t want you to know that though bc it’s bad for biz.
You rock. I’m glad you’re here. You’re really smart and cool and fun to be around and more than a body and treating your body and self well doesn’t stem from first hating it and talking sh*t, okay? Happy Friday love you!! ✨💛
3 Tags vor
I dream of a day when we don’t use terms like “clean” to talk about food, here’s why!
1️⃣ it doesn’t mean ANYTHING. This term isn’t regulated, what one person considers “clean” is different than what another brand or person does and that makes for a confusing jumble of information that at the end of the day doesn’t stand for anything.
2️⃣ the term “clean” implies that foods without this label are dirty or unclean and therefore YOU are eating dirty, unclean, impure if you eat them. Clean eating is a term often associated (and can be an easy gateway to) orthorexia, or disordered eating patterns that stem from an obsession with eating “perfectly” and always choosing a “clean” “safe” option.
3️⃣ Clean eating is elitist and exclusive. Many of the foods you will hear about that fall under whatever definition of “clean eating” have limited ingredients, or are “clean” versions of popular processed or ethnic foods and with that are often more expensive and have a shorter shelf life making them inaccessible to the general population and implying that health through “clean” foods is exclusive to those who can afford it. This dips into lots of problematic areas but to start, taking a food from a culture, labeling it “dirty” or not “good enough” and then swapping a few ingredients to meet those arbitrary “clean” standards — if you need a refresher of why this is problematic, google “lucky lees clean eating” for the NYT piece earlier this year.
4️⃣ it literally doesn’t make sense? It has nothing to do with dirt or cleanliness 🤷🏼♀️ it’s a term that gets thrown around to sell more products & simultaneously makes you feel badly about yourself. Just like when you label foods as “good” or “bad” - these labels might be rooted in some piece of helpful information but at the end of the day, when we have countless blog posts, “clean eating programs” and foods labeled “clean” without any real definition, all contradicting eachother, that makes it pretty damn messy (dirty even?!) to sift through those labels as a way of promoting your health. Instead? Wash your hands & food, and clean up your vocab of terms that don’t do anything but make eating more complicated 🧹#thewellful
I have been cataloguing my photos recently and so have come across many photos of when I was thin. In those photos I looked just how I wanted to look at the time, but the thing was - I never got to EXPERIENCE it.
Because in my mind I was still not good enough. I was always comparing: to my body a few weeks before, or my future body in my mind, or someone else’s body. And there was also this constant fear present that if I slipped even just for a second, all I had worked for would come crumbling down.
What I hoped my body would give me (confidence, love, feeling good enough) was at most superficial and fleeting. Deep down underneath, I was still the same scared person.
I know now that no amount of changing my body can bring me true, deep, lasting contentment and peace. That I realize can only come from within. Doesn’t mean I don’t sometimes still catch myself running around in circles thinking my body is the problem. Instead what happens now is that when I catch myself running in this circle, I instead can notice that I’m running around going nowhere, stop, and resume walking forward again.
📙 For additional information and resources on a weight-inclusive approach to health and wellness, download my free Body Acceptance Jump Start Guide by clicking the link in my bio.
👩🦰 And if you’re ready to build a kinder, more accepting, diet-free relationship with your body, I offer an 8-week one-on-one coaching program. Click the link in my bio then “Body Acceptance Coaching” for more information.
How stunning is this swimsuit? I am obsessed with leopard print this season! This bikini from @artesands really makes me feel confident. Can’t wait to live my best life this summer 😍 ps @artesands is now sold @biggirlsdontcryanymore 😍 to check out the styles they stock you can visit their website ❤️ If you want a bargain you can use KAKIE20 @biggirlsdontcryanymore for $20 off your order. (Not an ad however bikini is kindly gifted)
5 Stundes vor
Monday mood and a solid reminder: just keep swimming.
And like the moon, once full and bright, she begins to wane, retreating into herself, into that place for introspection 🌖⠀
image found via @sophie.jaffe ⠀
2 Stundes vor
How great is it that as women we can choose to be defined by more than perky sisters, a ‘perfect’ face, cinched waisted & toned butt. I love that my self worth has nothing to do with what you can see on the outside.
I’m a big believer in dressing for yourself, for comfort or even to boost your self confidence. Sometimes I just feel like high waisted stretchy panties & a bra that does nothing to lift the sister but feels like comfort all over my body. Other days I feel like wearing a pretty number like this one from @truworthsfashion .
I don’t know about you but I’m hella happy that the era of daily corset wearing is gone, I can’t imagine how uncomfortable those women must’ve been!
Bra gifted by @truworthsfashion .
"Step by step!" 💕
Ein wunderschönes Wochenende 💕
Letzte Woche gab es für mich eine große Herausforderung. Eine Körperanalyse. An sich war ich super gespannt drauf, aber ein paar Tage davor, habe ich gemerkt, wie in mir Panik aufstieg.
Ich werde gewogen. Ich habe mich vorher 6 Wochen nicht gewogen. Was tu ich, wenn die Waage 60kg anzeigt?
Ich weiß nicht, ob ihr das nachvollziehen könnt. Aber meine Vergangenheit, meine Magersucht, hat sich bemerkbar gemacht. Ich habe noch nie 60kg gewogen und diese Zahl scheint, wie mein Endgegner.
Mittlerweile kann ich essen, worauf ich Lust habe, aber sobald es an die Zahl auf der Waage geht, fällt mein Kopf zurück in alte Muster.
Vor circa 6 Jahren habe ich das erste mal 50kg gewogen und ja auch das war ein Kampf, aber ich habe ihn gewonnen und mir geht's gut damit. 💕
Trotzdem ist es mein Ziel, damit umgehen zu können und mich endlich auch nicht mehr von der Waage stressen zu lassen. 💕
Danke für's Lesen💕
Infos zu meiner Körperanalyse gibt's bald in der Story 💕
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5 Tags vor
Just in case no one has told you in awhile: doing your best is enough. Whatever it means for your. Your best is going to change and that’s okay. Be gentle with yourself. You are enough. #atempausemitanja
Dein bestes zu geben ist genug. Was auch immer das für dich gerade bedeuten mag. Denn sein bestes zu geben bedeutet manchmal, Dinge von seiner Aufgabenliste streichen zu können. Manchmal bedeutet es, gut zu sich selbst zu sein und einen Gang zurück zu schalten. Manchmal bedeutet sein bestes geben morgens die Augen zu öffnen und da zu sein.
Was auch immer es gerade für dich bedeutet: es ist genug. Es ist wertvoll.
Gestern war mein bestes geben alle meine To Dos abzuarbeiten und voller Energie durch den Tag zu gehen.
Heute war mein bestes geben mir selbst gegenüber zuzugeben, dass ich k.o. bin und meine Pläne für heute auf die kommenden Tage zu verteilen. Mein bestes zu geben war heute ein Power Nap nach dem Essen, entspannen auf dem Sofa und ein Spaziergang bei schönstem Herbstwetter.
Und mein bestes von heute ist genauso wertvoll wie mein bestes von gestern.
Wie sah dein bestes geben heute aus?
p.s.: schreibt mir unbedingt in die Kommentare, ob euch solche Beiträge auch gefallen? Bisher kamen sie ja nur in der Story. Ich bin gespannt. Liebe!
#quote #wellbeing#mentalhealth#selfcare #motivation
#edrecovery #recoveryispossible#recoverywin #achtsamkeit
#gesund #bewusstleben #bodypositivity#selflove#selbstliebe#loveyourself#abnehmen#bodylove#gesundabnehmen#fitness#foodmakeshappy#healthylifestyle#blogger_de#gratitude#foodblogger#anorexiarecovery#zunehmen#recoverywarrior#realrecovery#sinnfluencer
If you can commit to eliminating these habits, you WILL see substantial growth in your life. I promise you.
1 Woche vor
Self care Sunday done right ^^ what’s the biggest thing you struggle with from this list?⠀
Besides the grocery store madness which is essentially unavoidable am I right 🤦♀️🤦♀️
3 Stundes vor
We spend so much energy and give so much time obsessing about food, meal prepping and planning, counting calories, grams or points, exercising and planning our work outs. Imagine if we spent that energy cultivating awareness of ourselves. What brings our hearts joy, and then going out and doing that. What brings peace to the mind, and spending energy finding this. What sets our souls on fire, and then discovering the spark to light it.
We are defined by so much more than our waistlines, our thighs, the fleeting number on a scale and a quest for thinness. Your worth is defined by so much more, i promise. When you stop needing validation, when you believe great things will come into your life as you are right now and not after you shrink yourself to fit societal standards.
Your worth is not your weight. Your magic is already inside you, regardless of how much you lose or gain. ✨ When you get so focused on what you think the world around you wants you to be, you forget to tend to the greatness inside yourself.
1 Tag vor
Einen wunderschönen Sonntagabend 💕
Wie war euer Wochenende? Startet gut in die neue Woche und habt einen tollen Montag morgen 💕
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3 Tags vor
Last night I was a hypocrite. 😏 I’ve been pretty sick all week, so I haven’t worked out since Monday. I said something about going out for ice cream, then quickly retracted it and said “just kidding, I haven’t worked out all week”. Ethan immediately called me out for this statement — reminding me that I don’t have to earn my food and to practice what I preach. He was right, and I knew the second I said it that I shouldn’t have. I was partly joking, but still, saying things like that is unhelpful. I don’t want to contribute to these kinds of conversations, even if they are just at home with family. I’ve come a long way in that I don’t force myself to workout even when I’m sick, but it doesn’t mean I never have these thoughts creep up. Just a friendly reminder to myself and all of you that you deserve to eat, no matter what. Your body needs calories to survive, no matter what. You don’t ever have to “earn” food, and you deserve to treat yourself when it sounds good to you, regardless of whether or not you worked out that day. *important to remember this as the holidays come up* I’m still learning to reject the diet mentality; we all are. The way we speak to ourselves & the thoughts we have about our bodies matter SO much more than you might think. Change that inner dialogue. Give yourself grace. Allow yourself to rest when you need it. I hope this is helpful as we head into the weekend, and I really hope you’re all avoiding the nasty colds that are going around right now. 🤧 Do you struggle with these thoughts too? If so, how do you combat them? 👇🏼 PS: TGIF ♥️ #dietculturesucks#wellnessforthewin
1 Tag vor
Your past does NOT define your future unless you allow it to.
1 Tag vor
„Die beste Weise, sich um die Zukunft zu kümmern, besteht darin, sich sorgsam der Gegenwart zuzuwenden.“ - Tchich Nhat Hanh
Zwei Zitate als kleiner Reminder 📝 Erinnert ihr euch an meinen E-Mail Kurs im Sommer? Damals habt ihr euch den Satz "Ich erlaube mir genau so zu sein, wie ich bin" aufgeschrieben und ich bekomme heute noch Nachrichten, dass diese scheinbar kleine Aktion noch immer nachwirkt 🙏🏼 Es ist so wertvoll zu verstehen, dass das Leben jetzt ist ✨💕
"Bei der Meditation geht es nicht um den Versuch, irgendwo hinzugelangen. Es geht darum, dass wir uns selbst erlauben, genau dort zu sein, wo wir sind, und genau so zu sein, wie wir sind, und desgleichen der Welt zu erlauben, genau so zu sein, wie sie in diesem Augenblick ist." – Jon Kabat-Zinn
2 Tags vor
Do you struggle with anxiety? If you need some amazing tools to help cope with that gut wrenching feeling tune into episode 22 with @julianbrass where talk about owning your anxiety! 🙌🏼 👂🏼 Listen using link in bio
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17 Stundes vor
NOT dairy or gluten-free 🙅♀️ but this cannoli from @mikespastry was sooo worth the walk to get it + the bubbles I endured after. 💨🤭😂
What’s my tip for enjoying trips without totally negating my hard work in the gym/kitchen? Once again, BALANCE. Before this, I had 1/2 of the bowl of spinach, quinoa, + chicken I shared in my last post and then only had a few bites of this monster to satisfy my sweet tooth. 😋 Then I put it down and didn’t give it a second thought.
I’ve learned through the years that RESTRICTING leads to CRAVING those foods even more - and eventually binging on them (in the case of my own eating disorder). So, friends: live your best life, eat a few bites of the dang cannoli (or donut, or icecream, or cake), and try to practice that 80/20 balance I love oh so much. 😉