When it’s 95° outside but you want fall so you wear fall colors anyway 🤷🏻♀️⠀
I have my first grad school midterm tomorrow, and it’s safe to say that I’m pretty nervous 🤯⠀
Here’s to trusting what I know and trying not to judge myself in the process 💁🏻♀️
Let’s talk body image and motherhood for a moment. Last week I had the opportunity to chat with Jenn Campbell (@mamalionstrong), all about body image - particularly postpartum body image - and learning to love our ever-changing bodies. .
One of our main topics was how we need to change the narrative for our children in order to truly start to change societal pressure and expectation when it comes to body image. As a mama of four - three of them being girls - this resonated with me so deeply.
I grew up in the era of photoshop, Top Model, Britney Spears, and the explosion of the internet and social media. Despite the fact that I had loving, supportive parents who taught me that there was so much more to me than my physical appearance, I have still had to deal with issues surrounding body image and what I believe about myself and where my value lies.
One of the biggest breakthroughs for me has actually been my physical scars post-surgery. They are still red and raw, and they are so visible. They do not fit into the box of what is considered beautiful in our society. But there’s nothing I can do to change the fact that I have them - and in fact, I truly wouldn’t want to. These scars represent LIFE and I earned them! And this is how I speak about them to my children. .
This body is a roadmap of marks, and for my own sake and the sake of my children, I am doing my best to consciously choose this body everyday, and to recognize that these physical changes are a privilege. Pregnancy is a privilege; aging is a privilege; life after major surgery is a privilege, and our marks are just a part of the story of who we are and what we have experienced in this life.
Don’t get me wrong - I still struggle; I’m not 100% there yet. But I’m doing my best to change the narrative on body image for my kids. If it’s true that “beauty is in the eye of the beholder” then it’s my job to shape my little beholders. 💕
I would love to know your thoughts on this issue. Is body image something you struggle with?? What strategies are you using to change the narrative for yourself and your kids? 💕
📸 Wardrobe provided by @jannagobeilphoto.
There are a lot of factors that contribute to “feeling better” after weight loss. This post isn’t about getting into all the reasons that might be (that’s another conversation). What this post is about is highlighting how weight stigma in our culture impacts how we feel about our bodies before and after we lose weight.
The reality is thinner bodies are accepted more in our fatphobic society. People are applauded when they lose weight. People dole out compliments, telling us we “look great” after weight loss. We may receive more positive attention from total strangers. We likely find it easier to shop for clothes, fit in plane seats. We are assumed to be healthier than we were before.
The reality is, a lot of “feeling better” after weight loss doesn’t have anything to do with weight loss itself, but how people are TREATED when in a thinner body.
We simply cannot discount this major factor.
🧠 A thought experiment to highlight this: imagine a culture where larger bodies are the “ideal”. We see actors all over TV and in movies in larger bodies. Larger clothing sizes are the norm in stores. Everyone would complement us for gaining weight, (and remain silent if we lost it). Clothing came in larger sizes but we had to shop primarily online to find smaller sizes. Plane seats were large and we could never feel secure in one because the seatbelts were loose. How much would we desire weight loss in this world?
“Feeling better” when we lose weight, may have very little to do with weight loss itself.
[“But health!” Google the ASU article “Big Fat Lies About Obesity.]
📙 For information and resources on weight-neutral self-care, health and wellness, and body acceptance, download my free Body Acceptance Jump Start Guide by clicking the link in my bio.
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There is so much abundance, it’s meant for you, and it’s never too late to open your arms and receive the gifts life places in front of you. ✨
1 Woche vor
Today I’m celebrating 3 years of eating disorder recovery 🎉⠀
3 years ago I took the brave step of starting therapy and choosing recovery. No one told me I had a problem or forced me into treatment. No one understood why I was seeking help. But I understood that I couldn’t keep living how I was anymore.⠀
While I still struggle with depression, anxiety, and PTSD on a daily basis, I’m incredibly grateful to say that I’m fully recovered from anorexia. The person I am now and the way my life looks now compared to what things looked like 3 years ago is drastically different.⠀
Today I didn’t restrict my food or overexercise. I didn’t body check or weigh myself. I didn’t look at calorie counts. Today I spent my morning and afternoon in a graduate school class as part of my Masters in Clinical Mental Health Counseling program. I spent my afternoon eating snacks and playing board games with my friend @karibearrry, followed by going to Build-A-Bear and eating a delicious dinner consisting of things both my body and mind needed and wanted.⠀
My life now isn’t any easier than it was in my eating disorder — in all honesty, my life is harder. I still face extremely difficult and painful things, but the difference now is that I’m able to acknowledge what’s going on and cope with it in a constructive, healthy way instead of turning to my eating disorder.⠀
If you’re struggling with an eating disorder, I want you to know that recovery is possible. There is light and hope here, and there is so much freedom to be found beyond your eating disorder.⠀
3 years ago I was just starting to dig myself out of my eating disorder. I’m now in graduate school to become an eating disorders and trauma therapist, I’ve published a book, I’ve spoken at national conferences and events, I’ve rediscovered my love for ballet, I’ve found an amazing community of love and support here on Instagram, and so much more.⠀
Thank you so much to everyone who has supported me along the way and who continues to support me everyday — I couldn’t have gotten this far without you ✨⠀
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Your only job is to focus on you. We can't save everybody. We can't fix all of the world problems on our own. If we all focused on the things that we CAN control, the world would be a much better place. 😊
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When you comment on your body, you comment on everyone’s body. And you add to the noise of all the comments, rules, opinions about what bodies “should” look like - and we already have enough of that 🙄.
It’s easy to think “no I don’t mean *their* body, just mine” and believe me - I’ve been there (we are all learning here!) but the way you talk to and about yourself is important - not only because of how it impacts you, but also because of how it impacts others.
Since it’s easier to be harsh to ourselves (so weird, right? Let’s all work on that) sometimes reframing it to think about how our actions effect others can be more meaningful. So think about when you’re saying that you “hate your legs” or “how your belly looks” that you’re also teaching others that it’s okay to tear and piece themselves apart and that they should also dislike parts of their body if they look remotely like yours or not the “ideal body” (which is some photoshopped BS, friends! We are not all supposed to look the same). This is so hard to do, it’s not an overnight thing, but to change our own relationship with our bodies AND support others in doing the same, we need to change the dialogue.
Who decided that the way you look isn’t “good enough”? Who is making the rules here? And what’s the point? Is it making you a better mom or friend to constantly tear yourself down? Does it make you want to head into the boardroom and give a kickass presentation with confidence after you’ve picked yourself apart in the mirror? Probably not!
We have enough beauty, diet, body, wellness messages telling us how we “should” be or act or behave or look - we don’t need to be doing it on an individual level too. You are enough. You are more than a body. Bodies are meant to change - they all change - and even if you never love it or even like how it looks on the outside, you can still take care of it, like it takes care of you. You have a heck of a lot more to offer than your jean size - and you have better things to think about than all the things you want to change about yourself. 💫 Link in bio for my GOODBYE GUILT guide to change how the language around food & your body. 💫 #thewellful
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Since birthing my two boys my body hasn’t been the same. There were difficult areas that I was self conscious about and felt hopeless believing my mommy body was permanent. I can only wear certain styles of clothes to hide the problem areas that made me feel inadequate.
After 8 years of learning through my trial and errors; I can confidently say that I haven’t been this fit everr in my life. (Feeling strong, more energy) I realized that it’s def a commitment despite maintaining family + work + community life balance; and lemme tell you; the work is frickkkinn harddd. I’m not slaving away hours on end at the gym on the daily; it’s the consistency without excuses that is key for my success. Exercising out of my comfort zone 5-6x a week. (I respect that your opinion differs from mine; however in my upbringing that never provided an opportunity for fitness, gives me that understanding of why this way works for me. It’s like I want my body to make up for lost time and make this a healthy habit for the long-term.
I’m still really in baby status in my fitness journey; and now that I have it on lock down I pray to see what it will look like down the road.
#bodypositive #likeagirl#mombod#momswholift#momofboys#portland#pdx#fitness#pdxfitness#bodylove#positivevibes#adidaswomen#adidas#nike#nikewomen#lululemon#stellamccartney#carbon38#strong#love#courage#fitnessmotivation#fitnessjourney#gymmotivation#fitnesswomen ****AND YES IM HELLA GRATEFUL FOR THIS BODY GOD GAVE ME OKURRRR💥 💥💥
My first video wasn't perfect.
My first podcast show wasn't impeccable.
My first speaking engagement wasn't flawless.
Being able to look back and see how much you've grown is the beauty of it all. Done is much better than perfect.
Sunday brunch reminder!!
Tbh I do love the ease of 2-ingredient pancakes recipes (super easy & allergen friendly when traveling or if you don’t have other ingredients on hand) but, there’s still nothing wrong with a stack of some traditional fluffy pancakes 👏 IG can make it seem like pancakes are only “allowed” when they’re in this healthified version, but truth is neither kind is better, or makes you better for choosing them. So you’re not “being good” or “being bad” either either (or any food) choice. There are lots of “why’s” we eat - satisfaction, taste, experience, nutrition, convenience, foods that fill you up or feel good, or because pancakes taste great when you don’t eat them with guilt👏 Happy brunching ✨✨ #thewellful#WHYiatewednesday#guiltfree#wellnesswithoutobsession
1 Woche vor
"Immer weiter hoch hinaus", singt er und ich könnte kotzen - und das, obwohl ich ein Fan bin.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Vielleicht liegt es daran, dass ich sehe, wie meine Coaching Klienten durch das "immer mehr leisten" leiden; zu viel und zu lange arbeiten. Wie sie sich unter Druck setzen, um noch erfolgreicher zu sein und sich damit zu dicht an den Rand des Gesund-Seins bringen.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Das "Bin zu müde für Pausen" Motto hat auch mich in den letzten 3 Jahren meiner Selbstständigkeit hin und wieder besucht. Getrieben von einer Vision, einem Ziel und von Ungeduld, weil ich das "nächste Level" einfach nicht erwarten konnte...⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Aber in ruhigen Momenten frage ich mich: Welche unrealistischen Erwartungen setzten wir an das "immer weiter hoch hinaus"?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Führt uns das wirklich zu dem Glück, zu der Erfüllung und dem Seelenfrieden, nach dem wir uns sehnen?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Fleiß, Disziplin und Mühen haben ihren Platz und sind wichtig. Auch ich will mein Leben nutzen, um Großartiges zu erschaffen - wie auch immer das aussehen mag. Aber dieser Leistungs- und Erfolgsdruck, den ich immer mehr um ich herum wahrnehmen kann, macht mir Sorgen.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Wie siehst Du das denn?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
#selbstliebe #liebe#achtsamkeit #selbstfürsorge #fürsorge #motivation#happy#selbstvertrauen#selbstbewusstsein#selbstwert#erfolg#gesund#inspiration#leben#loveyourself#meditation#coaching#freiheit#Selbstliebe#dankbar#entrepreneur#healthy#selfconfidence#zitate#bewusstleben#bewusstsein#bodylove#dankedankedanke
🤰 LOVE POSTPARTUM BODY 🤰 .
After giving birth most women face a problem to love their postpartum body the protruding stomach, streaks of stretch marks, droopy boobs and loose skin. This pic of mine is 7 weeks postpartum. And on the other hand most women have a postpartum depression as well like I used to cry when my baby cried and felt like being a mother why can't I understand what he wants.
And when you have a doctors visit for check up after delivery you don't find any clothes to wear and think when will you get back to shape to fit in your outfits.
And nevertheless the society is all there to tell you about the weight that you have put it is so difficult to reduce and again on the other way they would say eat more as you are breastfeeding your baby. I have a suggestion for you moms please give a deaf ear to such mouths.
Dont forget your body underwent a lot to nurture that small life inside you. And childbirth is not a easy task whether normal or C-sec your body is a pure ball of magic to give birth to this wonderful litte human.
Dont keep on thinking when will I get my old figure back rather accept your new body let that little one grow with time things will come in place. I weighed 72kgs and gained almost around 17kgs but with time I have reduced my son is 22 months now and I have come upto 56kgs.
Love your postpartum body and respect it for its strength, grace and power to carry this baby for 9 months. Trust yourself and love yourself the way you are and automatically with a little of diet and workout you will see the changes in your body.
My Mantra was " My Body Rocks And I Created This Gorgeous Baby" this positive attitude helped me a lot to accept the changes in my body. Accept it that your body will not be the same like before. Its a blessing to be a mother.
Stay Fit. STAY STYLISH! .
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Artwork by the one and only @jessyscarpone 💖 Jessy was an avid runner, as well as a talented artist. She always kept her body healthy and active. We are thinking of and missing her everyday here at Just Girl. 💕 #justgirlproject Were you kind to your body today?
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🌻🍂SEPTEMBER INTENTIONS - what are your intentions for this month?
Das sind meine Intentionen für den Monat September. Nicht perfekt, wie gedruckt oder besonders künstlerisch - aber von Herzen, im Polen auf dem Bett aufgeschrieben und authentisch.
Wie ich meine Intentionsseiten gestalte und welche Fragen ich mir dabei stelle, findet ihr unter meinen August-Intentionen oder unter dem Hashtag #intentionsbyanjushka .
1️⃣Eins nach dem anderen. Hör mit Multitasking auf. Ich habe für mich festgestellt, dass ich nicht nur viel schneller voran komme, sondern auch viel mehr mit Herz dabei sein kann, wenn ich mich step by step voranarbeite und mich dabei besonders auf eine Sache konzentriere, anstatt 10 Dinge gleichzeitig und nur mit halben Herzen zu tun.
2️⃣Hör auf nach Perfektion zu streben. Dein bestes zu geben ist mehr als genug. Nach Perfektion streben ist für mich ein unerreichbares und frustrierendes Ziel. Stattdessen möchte ich verinnerlichen, dass mein Bestes geben mehr als genug ist.
3️⃣Lerne Ruhe und Erholung zu GENIEßEN! Mir fällt es nicht immer leicht mich komplett fallen zu lassen und dabei abzuschalten, mir Ruhe zu gönnen. Das man damit früher oder später mal auf die Nase fällt merke ich gerade.
4️⃣Ich werde mich nicht von Dingen stressen lassen, über die ich keine Kontrolle habe. Worüber ich aber die Kontrolle habe: mein Umgang mit Dingen, die ich nicht kontrollieren kann. Und das ist ziemlich viel wert.
5️⃣SEI DU SELBST. Du bist wunderschön und großartig! Ich habe in den letzten Monaten gemerkt, dass es kaum etwas kraftvolleres und schöneres gibt als zu sich selbst zu stehen & mit Herz zu sprechen. Es ist nicht einfach nachdem man so eine lange Zeit mit einer Maske herumgelaufen ist. Aber es ist schön sich selbst kennen und lieben zu lernen. Du bist es wert. -
Wie findet ihr meine Intentionen? Und was sind eure Intentionen für den September? Falls ihr selbst Intentionsseiten in eurem #bulletjournal habt, teilt sie gerne mit mir unter dem Hashtag #intentionsbyanjushka !
1 Woche vor
My relationship with my body changed completely when I stopped worrying too much about how my body looks and started connecting to how my body feels; when I stopped measuring health + happiness, my worth + beauty on the basis of size, weight, fat percentage and other rules of body conformity; when I started accepting that my body is an experience that is to be lived, enjoyed and embraced, not a shiny trinket to be admired, worn & flaunted
I used to think telling myself 'i am beautiful' would help in loving myself more. But TBH that didn't really work as well as I hoped. Because somewhere my conditioned mind still doubted, my eyes were still in someway trained to see beauty in a certain way. So I started asking myself why/ how am I beautiful, what is beautiful about my body?
The way my body adapts and grows is beautiful
The way it softens is beautiful
The way it fights back and protects me is beautiful
The way it blooms and creates is beautiful
How it interacts with me, always open to communicate is beautiful
My body's ability and openness to pleasure, soothe and comfort is beautiful
Its innate sense of rhythm is beautiful
It's intelligence is beautiful
It's connection to nature is beautiful
It's work ethic is beautiful
How much it feels is beautiful
How it loves is beautiful
And that is what I come back to in my moments of insecurity, reminding myself of all the things that make me shine, that make me beautiful
Have you ever asked yourself what makes you and your body beautiful? Trust me, You will be surprised by all that comes up and how the list is truly endless.
PC and pants designed by 💙 @mystic.light
#beauty #woman#selflove#embraceyourself#iweigh#beyourownkindofbeautiful#selfcare#selfcaresunday#allbodiesaregoodbodies#selfcarematters#therapy#pleasure#strongwomen#feminist#indianwomen#yoga#effyourbeautystandards #bodyimage
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What's your favorite thing about exercise? For me, it's how it makes me feel in and about my body. ⠀
When I haven't been eating so clean or life gets in the way of my workout routine, I often have a feeling I can only describe as "gross." Do you know what I mean? It's that bloated, weak, down-on-yourself feeling when your clothes don't quite fit and you end up eating even more crap food because hey! I already feel like crap, so why not eat a bag of Cheetos while I'm at it! 😬 ⠀
While ditching processed foods and eating more veg is a great start, exercise is what makes me start feelin' myself again...regardless as to whether I'm comfortable in my skinny jeans. When I challenge my body, it surprises me. And when I start to appreciate my body, I begin seeing myself differently. ⠀
It only takes a day or two of regular exercise for me to start feeling confident and connected with my body again.⠀
Now that I'm back to my early morning workouts, I'm having to adjust my intermittent fasting. Head over to the blog (link in profile) for more info on IF with pre-dawn workouts. ⠀
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Spiegeln Hunde die Persönlichkeiten ihrer Besitzer? 🧐 Ich sage definitiv: ja. 🙋🏻♀️
Nicht nur, dass sich Hunde unserer Energie anpassen, nein, ich glaube sogar, da ist auch eine große Menge
Unterbewusstes mit am Werke, wenn man sich einen Hund aussucht. 👀
Bei uns ist zB es so, dass Lizzy mir sehr ähnlich ist, und wir eine extrem tiefe Verbindung haben. ❤️ dieser Hund hat irgendwie eine Saite zum klingen gebracht, die vorher noch unangetastet war. 🙈 (ja, hört sich cheesy an, is aber so 😅)
Umgekehrt sind sich Ally und der Bär auch vom Wesen her sehr ähnlich und auch die haben eine besondere Verbindung, die schwer in Worte zu fassen ist.
Natürlich liebe ich meine beiden Mäuse abgöttisch, aber die Fakten sind da einfach nicht von der Hand zu weisen. 😅🤪
Und jetzt kommt dazu noch folgendes: der Bär hat sich Ally quasi „ausgesucht“ - damals als wir auf Tierschutzvereins-Seiten unterwegs waren und fest stand, wir möchten einen Hund adoptieren.
Bei Lizzy war ich es die es unbedingt mit ihr als Pflegehund versuchen wollte - und sie dann am Ende schließlich auch nicht mehr gehen lassen konnte. 🙅🏻♀️ Wir beide, der Bär und ich, waren zwar der gleichen Meinung, sprich ich fand Ally auch toll als er sie mir das erste mal im Internet gezeigt hat, und auch er konnte Lizzy irgendwie nicht mehr gehen lassen, aber der erste Impuls kam jeweils bei einem von uns. 😍 huch.. ganz schön philosophisch hier an nem Samstag Abend 🙈 aber irgendwie finde ich den Gedanken wunderschön, dass da eine kleine überirdische Macht am Werk war und uns beiden diese beiden absolut tollen, aber auch herausfordernden Wesen in unser Leben katapultiert hat. 💫
1 Woche vor
Still basking from Fashion Week in this incredible dress designed by @lesley_hampton I am so blessed to be able to give a voice to mature curvy women ... ladies, we only get better with age if we believe it. I can honestly say I have only now stepped into my skin and loving every moment of it .. finally! #celebrateself#bodylove#likeafinewine#curves#fashion
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HAPPY FRIDAY THE 13TH FRIENDS!
Thank god I’m not working tonight because not only is it Friday the 13th but it’s also a new moon and a full moon 🌕👻 if you work in healthcare you understand the impact that these things have on your night 😂 it brings out all the crazies! Good luck to all my co-workers tonight! May the odds be in your favor!
Sporting some Halloween colors to get this spooky season started! 👻🎃 Hope everyone has some fun plans for this weekend!
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I feel like I’m starting to fully accept who I am, what I deserve, and the kind of life I want to live (keyword: fully).. and it feels GOOD.
I’ve always claimed to be confident + “not care what people think”, but tbh that’s just not realistic.
We all care to some extent, but I’ve felt the need for outward praise or recognition drastically decrease these past few months.
I had this realization while using @headspace a couple of weeks ago.
I used one of the “taking a break” meditations in the middle of the afternoon and felt a calming sensation come over me.
Taking those 10 minutes to reflect on where I am in life, who I’m surrounded by and the opportunities that have presented themselves this past year is insanely encouraging.
I’m SUCH a forward thinker… so taking time to reflect on how blessed I am (in the PRESENT) and the gifts the Lord has given me is 10000% worth celebrating.
It’s incredible the positive thoughts that will come when we allow ourselves to simply breath and realize everything is actually more than ok.
Morning meditation doesn’t come easy to me, and that’s ok. I’ve found a ton of benefits through these random afternoon meditations & the walking meditations as well.
I want to encourage you to join me in taking ten minutes out of your day, whatever time that may be, to simply BE. I never would have done this without downloading @headspace and hope you’ll give it a try, too.
When do you like to meditate? || #headspace #ad
#mindfulness #meditation #anxiety #mentalhealth #mindbodygram #iamwellandgood #healthyish #fitfoodie #mentallyfit #girlboss #wellnesswithoutobsession #strongnotskinny #balancednotclean #progressnotperfection #tiuloveyourbody #bodyfreedom #selflove #selflovejourney #wellnessjourney #practicenotperfection #takecareofyourself #bodylove #fuelyourbody #selfloveisthebestlove #nomorediets #nourishnotpunish
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Love is not the opposite of fear: Love is the vast ocean in which fear can come and go.
You are the ocean.
You have always been this ocean. Fear is just a wave in you; it‘s not your enemy. ~ Jeff Foster
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Camila Mendes opens up about her views on health and apperance, and proves that she is a role model when it comes to body positivity! 🙌⭐️ Tap the 🔗 in bio to read her powerful interview❣️